pursuit of happiness....

well i was chillin wit some cognac and get cha mind right and i was wonderin wat makes me happy....and how does one pursue happiness....do u lower ur standards? try to betta urself first? like wat is the answer to this madness....ive been in the pursuit of happiness for at least 10 years....i mean really who hasnt...most girls i deal wit are cool peeps....some i care more for than others....some i attempt to see wats good and they cant/dont know how to just say how they feel....i take u back to this one time....both parties single....tried to holla and was like um...im not lookin for anything serious..(translation - i dont think u cool enough to b on my arm..lol...)cool i step off...and then cause i aint n her face no more im a dirtbag...give me a break....so my question is how does one not b frowned upon for tryin to pursue his own happiness post rejection....does that make sense? i hope it does cause i totally understand wat im sayin....ive been victim to big titties, fat booty's, pretty smiles, long hair dont care (lol), and the list goes on....i thought all of those material things would make me happy in the long run but came to the realization that just cause the exterior is beautiful doesnt mean the inside is even 1/5 of that beauty....ive met some ugly personality dimes and some lesser attractive (to me) females wit beautiful personalities....i mean the eye of the beholder forms its own beauty....well til next time....ponder on this....